With so many people in New Jersey getting divorced, there are thousands of singles reentering the NJ dating scene every day. The bad news? That’s a lot of divorces. The good news? If you’re newly single, that means you have a lot of potential to meet new people. But first thing’s first: you need to be 100% healed from your divorce and ready to reenter the dating scene.
Once you’re 100% healed and ready, here are a few things you must know. Today, New Jersey Singles reviews five very important things to keep in mind when dating after divorce.
1. Only you know when you’re ready.
You’ll have a bunch of people telling you it’s time to start dating again(friends, coworkers, & family), but you need to follow your own instincts. Close your eyes and picture yourself dating again. If you feel anxious, angry, bitter, resentful, or unsure, then you’re not ready to date again. If you feel curious and excited, then you’re ready to date again.
2. Matchmaking services are a norm now.
No, this is not something that only millennials are doing. Matchmaking services like ours here at New Jersey Singles have become very popular amongst divorcees who haven’t dated in a while and need a little help with their dating life. Pretty much everyone who is divorced turns to matchmaking to make dating easier and more enjoyable. Our matchmaking service caters to the 40-plus crowd. We work with singles who want to find love again but need a little guidance and support along the way, as well as handpicked matches who are compatible with them. We provide a time-saving, efficient, and private way of dating, which we know you will value.
3. Online dating is very deceitful.
You might hear a coworker or friend tell you to venture into the world of online dating because it’s convenient and you can do it from your laptop at home. But listen to the experts: people who use online dating sites misinterpret themselves. You might think you’re talking to someone who is single and financially stable when you’re really talking to someone who is in a relationship and lives in their parent’s basement. You just never know what you’re going to get in the online world. Unlike online dating sites, we thoroughly vet and screen every client to ensure they are who they say they are and that they’re fit to date existing clients.
4. Coffees & cocktails are the new first date norm.
Back when you were single, a three-course meal was the traditional first date idea. But nowadays, people see dinner as too much time and commitment because what if you don’t hit it off, then you have to sit with them for two hours. Having a short coffee or cocktail date is better because it’s a smaller investment of your time, energy, and money.
5. Talking about exes is still off limits.
It’s tempting to go there and tell your date everything about your divorce, but this topic will make you look like a down. So instead of talking about your divorce, find something else to talk about. Instead of the usual, “Tell me about yourself,” which is boring, ask them what they like to do in their spare time. Or better yet, tell them what you like to do in your spare time. Find common interests so you can get the ball rolling and get the conversation flowing naturally.
Remember that it’s okay if sparks don’t fly on the first date. But don’t dismiss your date solely because there weren’t immediate sparks. As matchmakers, we know that it can take a few dates for attraction to build and sparks to start lighting up. Dating after divorce can be frightening for a lot of people, but it doesn’t have to be; in fact, it shouldn’t be!
If you’re single and getting ready to enter the New Jersey dating scene after a divorce, then it’s time you contact the best matchmakers in New Jersey here at New Jersey Singles and let us make your post-divorce dating experience a delight. We’ll get you up to dating speed and give you the guidance and support you need along the way. We’ll ensure you’re 100% ready and confident before sending you out on a date. Our goal isn’t just to introduce you to people but rather help you find and develop the meaningful relationship you’re after. Call 1 (888) 417-0020 to reserve your FREE matchmaking consultation with our passionate matchmakers today!