Are you struggling to meet and make connections with singles in New Jersey? Let our professional matchmakers improve your dating success with helpful tips to boost your mood and increase confidence!
Dating is something you either hate or love. With 25 years of matchmaking experience, here at New Jersey Singles, we know it can be fun, frustrating, and grueling all at the same time. After all, if dating were easy, there wouldn’t be any dating blogs or advice floating around with titles like “Dating Makes You Want to Cringe, But You Need to Do It,” “Dating Advice: Do’s & Don’ts for 1st Dates,” “How Not to Date,” “Dating Horror Stories,” and so on. The web is full of bad stories about dates who show up without showering, people who are too eager, and some that are downright scary. Why is dating in the 21st century so complicated?
Dating anxiety could have a lot to do with the way we behave. Nowadays, people are living longer, gender roles are flexible, and both sexes are putting equal priority into their careers, friendships, and social lives. Still, people need to date to find a soul mate and eventually get married. However, despite all the pressures and frustrations of meeting new people and dating, our matchmakers know it can still be a lot of fun. The trick is all in your attitude and how you approach it altogether. And trust us, confidence has a lot to do with it too. Today, our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service will teach you how to build confidence for dating.
How to Relax Before Your Upcoming Date…
Soothing music in the air, candles lit, and a warm evening breeze coming through the window… Are you on a dream date? Nope, this is happening all inside of your head when you practice how to relax beforehand and learn to visualize your dates. By transporting yourself to a place in your mind that helps you feel relaxed, you can feel at ease and let go of any tension that could jeopardize your date. Less tension means a stable wrist to apply your mascara or a steady and to shave your beard and more positive energy to talk, laugh, and dance the night away.
Just learn to breathe deeply and calm your mind. Since being rushed will raise your adrenaline, you need to give yourself plenty of time to get ready. If you know the date is only hours away, plan ahead so you know exactly what you’re going to wear. Yep, right down to the very last accessory and perfume or cologne. Make sure your tank is full so there aren’t any unnecessary stops, and have the directions to the restaurant already punched into your GPS so you’re not fumbling around and getting hot in the car.
Put Yourself in a Good Mood
Here at New Jersey Singles, we encourage our clients to do something they love before heading out on an introduction. Get your endorphins going, eat your favorite candy bar, lift a few weights, or go for a short run. Engage in your favorite activity. Whatever it is you like, do it. We want you to do anything you can that will lift your spirits. Dress in clothes that make you feel comfortable, ones that will boost your confidence. If you look and feel your best before your date, you will naturally be more confident as well.
Be Open to New Experiences
Let go of your rigid expectations and just be open to something new. Think of dating as an experiment; things could end up going well or maybe not so much. Relax into this idea and things could turn out positive. Try not to start thinking about the ‘what ifs’ or how things could be ten years from now. Just think about the moment and the date you’re having right now. After all, it’s just a date. Stay in the moment and enjoy what they have to offer.
Be Your True Self
As cliché as it might sound, it is essential for you to be yourself. Don’t try putting on a façade and acting like someone you’re not. If you want this date to go well, then you want that person to like you for who you are, not someone you pretended to be. Be open and confident with who you are as a person. If you and your date hit it off, perfect. If not, no worries. He or she isn’t the last person on the planet.
Focus on Your Strengths & Put Your Weaknesses Aside
Don’t complain or engage in negative self-talk during your first date. Talk to them about your strengths and accomplishments. Yes, we all have our weaknesses, and we all make mistakes, but there is no need to talk about them during your first date. First impressions are everything, so keep everything positive and upbeat during your date.
Remember: They Are Human as Well
Remember that your date is only human too. They have emotions just like you and they are probably nervous as well. Now relax and take comfort in knowing this. Treat the other person the same exact way you want to be treated and we can guarantee you will have a successful evening. Even if things don’t turn out the way you expected, perhaps you’ll end up meeting a new friend. Each person you go out with brings you a new point of view, a new perspective on dating. And even if you don’t see this person again, they have probably taught you something new. Try looking at your date from this perspective and you’ll see things will go much smoother.
Last but not least. A genuine smile can take you a long way. It’s friendly, warm, open, and inviting, all very important in making a great first impression and setting the tone for the date. Our matchmakers don’t want you to focus solely the end results; just be happy to enjoy the dating experience you’re about to embark on. Always greet your date with a smile, and don’t forget to smile and laugh throughout the date. And regardless of the end results, at the end of the date, smile again as you say goodbye.
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