It’s safe to say that the holiday season is the most stressful and anticipated one for singles. New couples not sure what to define themselves as, those who have recently broken off a relationship, and those who are tired of hearing probing questions about their single status from their family members and coworkers.
The holiday time, from Thanksgiving to New Years, brings about a whole array of different emotions. It’s natural to reminisce on all the memories you once had,. But one thing is for certain, though, during this season, many singles are actively on the hunt for holiday love, many of whom turn to professional matchmaking agencies, like New Jersey Singles.
Still, with that fact, we know dating during the holiday season can be challenging. We get it, it’s hurtful and frustrating to see so many happy people get into new relationships while you are stuck in a dating rut. But don’t worry, today our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles will share some helpful tips to get you through the holidays.
1. Don’t Use Social Media to Reminisce
Sure, we know it’s natural to want to peek at your ex’s Facebook page to see what they’re up to, especially during the holidays when you’re thinking back to the good times, but try to refrain. What if she’s taking a trip to the Bahamas with their new beau or what if he’s flying to aspen to get a special kiss under the mistletoe? You’re going to be deeply hurting inside.
Instead, our matchmakers want you to try to create new memories. Walk down a nicely decorated street and take photos of the trees, storefronts, and beautifully displayed lights, then post those on Facebook to show your holiday cheer. So what if you’re alone and without a partner? You are out of your house enjoying the holidays regardless of your relationship status. Digital snooping isn’t helpful, especially during the holidays when you’re bound to feel more emotional. Trust us, it will only bring out the worst in you.
2. Fill the Calendar & Stay Busy
Anxiety can be at an all-time high during the holiday season, but joining a professional matchmaking agency like New Jersey Singles will be a great way to get a little ego boost. It will also give you plenty of opportunities to meet like-minded individuals. Although, our matchmakers don’t recommend you fill up the calendar by signing up with online dating sites. As easy and promising as they might sound, they do come with many cons. The easiest way to find someone who you’re compatible with is by letting an expert matchmaker do the searching and qualifying for you.
3. Block Your Ex on Social Media
If you have recently ended a relationship with someone, the best thing you can do is block them from social media. Make sure you delete them so you’re not reminded of all the things they’re doing without you. This way you also aren’t going to be so tempted to snoop on their page.
4. Don’t Get into a Rebound Relationship
They say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new. Do you think that’s right? Absolutely not.
Sure, the initial infatuation stage can be fun, and it’s nice to have a warm body around you during the cold season, but being with someone new while trying to heal from a broken relationship isn’t the answer. Spend time with friends and family members, especially now that it’s the holiday season. You can even spend time alone doing a bit of reading, writing, taking a class or trying a new hobby.
5. Discuss Holiday Gift Giving
Before you run off to the nearest expensive jewelry store to buy your new partner of three weeks a Rolex, ask yourself if this is really what you should be getting them. Doesn’t it seem like it’s a little over the top and a little too soon? We think so. You need to come up with a reasonable budget if you’re dating someone new.
Perhaps you can get them a scarf, sweater, a ticket to a comedy show or sporting event, or even make them homemade cookies. You could even get them a gift certificate to the spa, gourmet chocolates, or accessories you know they like. Save those more meaningful gifts for when your relationship gets more serious.
*Also, for the men reading this, avoid buying her lingerie unless she has picked it out herself.
6. It’s Peak Season for Matchmakers
The good news for you is that more singles just like you have been signing up at professional matchmaking services like ours here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service. Our matchmakers see an influx of memberships during the holidays and Valentine’s Day. So why not sign up now to see if you can find a compatible partner to date?
7. Accept Holiday Invitations to Parties
If your calendar isn’t filled with holiday invitations, then it’s time to fill it in. Our matchmakers encourage you to accept invitations to work parties, family get togethers, and holiday parties hosted by friends. Now is the time to go and socialize with everyone you can; after all, you never know how many people you can meet at all these festive events. Walk in with confidence and you’ll be turning heads everywhere you go.
8. Matchmaking Makes Connections Year Round
People meet through matchmaking agencies and fall in love all year round, not just during the holiday season. If you’re having troubles dating on your own, it’s always best to leave it to the pros. In our 25 years of matchmaking in New Jersey, we have helped thousands of singles meet their other halves. Some meet during the holidays and others meet through the other months of the year. We help people get into serious relationships all year round, and we know we can help you too.
9. Fall in Love with Yourself
During the holidays, please take some time and a few deep breaths and realize that finding a partner starts with you. You need to feel good with yourself before anyone can feel good with you. If you need to take a break from dating to work on yourself, that’s fine. There are no rules others than needing to fall in love with yourself first. It’s the best place to start any new relationship.
Our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles wish you happy holidays and happy holidating! Let’s make your holiday dream come true this year.
If you’re ready to outsource your love life and see positive results, contact our matchmaking team today. Let us help you find the one!
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