It takes two people to make a relationship work. No matter how much you love your partner, it’s heartbreaking when they don’t love you in return. Sometimes your feelings for your partner are so intense you become blinded to the signs all around you. Your feelings for them seem to overrule your brain, which is not supposed to happen—but it does. Then, you end up realizing, too late, that your relationship is done and over, leaving you heartbroken and alone.
It takes time for people to realize the relationship has run its course, but we want to save you from that gut wrenching hardship. Today, our elite NJ matchmakers will show you seven surefire signs that let you know your relationship has come to an end. When you see these signs, it’s best to cut your losses and move on with dignity.
1. There Is an Invasion of Privacy
It can be as simple as checking each other’s social media accounts or going through each other’s cell phones, but the relationship is over when partners start snooping on each other. This is a clear indication that the relationship has many trust issues.
Do you know what they say about trust? Well, you can’t have a relationship without it. It is the same as a car running without gas, impossible to work. Therefore, your relationship will not work if there isn’t any trust. And even if you want to work at rebuilding it, know that it takes a lot of time, energy, and efforts to restore broken trust.
2. There Are a Lot of Secrets
Unless a secret is kept from a partner for their own good, which is rarely the case, relationships and secrets don’t mix. A healthy and successful relationship is one where two partners can tell each other everything. If you feel there are things you need to keep away from your partner, then that’s a sign a breakup is on the horizons. A relationship cannot be built on lies and secrets, which will take us to our next point.
3. There Are a Lot of Lies
It doesn’t matter if you tell a small white lie or a big one, lying in the relationship is never acceptable and should not be tolerated. We want you to know that lies, big or small, are still lies, and you’re obviously telling them because you don’t want your partner to find out the truth. Why would you hide something from someone you love? Do you see the issue? This a huge problem right. One single lie can break the trust you have, destroying the relationship altogether. If both parties are starting to lie, the relationship is definitely over.
4. There Is Hostility
Early on in the relationship, you and your partner agreed with almost everything you both did, from little things to big things. But, as time goes by, you can’t settle any argument or disagreement without having a screaming match, which results in calling each other every name in the dictionary. You need to understand that something has obviously changed, something had to make each of you this way.
You need to evaluate yourself and the relationship to figure out what’s wrong. If you think the relationship is a warzone, and your partner is who you are at war with, then it’s fair to say your relationship is over.
5. There Is a Lot of Stress
In the beginning, a long day at the office meant you couldn’t wait to break loose and rush home to spend quality time with your partner (when things were still fresh), but now that the relationship is seasoned, you can’t bare to spend another minute with them. In fact, now you dread going home and make up excuses to prolong it.
The thought of seeing your partner stresses the life out of you. You avoid spending time with them because it is a stress reliever not to be with them. When your partner has become the main source of your stress, then you already know the relationship has come to an end.
6. You Keep Scores
Your relationship is not a game where you keep scores of what each of you do or don’t do. It is a give and take process. If you are constantly reminding your partner about how you are the one who always does the dishes, or always walks Fido, then the relationship has turned into a game. When the relationship turns into a game, then our NJ matchmakers know it’s not much longer until it ends.
7. There Is No More Affection
There are no more kisses, no more cuddling, no more “I love you” exchanges. There are no more midday text messages, no more “I called you just to see how your day was going” phone calls. And there are no more surprises. There are no more compliments and no more whispering sweet nothings. To put it in simple terms, your partner has stopped making an effort to make you feel special. You have become more business partners than romantic lovers.
If any of those things have disappeared from your relationship, then you have to find time to sit down and talk to your partner about it. If both of you are willing to fix the relationship, then, by all means, go ahead and fix the relationship. However, if your partner doesn’t show any signs of wanting to fix it, or they have only stayed in the relationship because they have yet to find another partner, end the relationship right now.
Life happens, and things don’t always go as planned, especially in relationships, which could lead to you and your partner parting ways. It’s going to be painful, but it’s not the end of the world. Now, the main question is, when will you walk away?
Staying in a relationship with a partner how doesn’t love you, is only sabotaging your romantic life. Our NJ matchmakers know there is someone out there who will love you in return. Stop justifying your partner’s actions and telling yourself that it will work out in the future—it won’t. If you stay, you’re only prolonging the pain.
Our NJ matchmakers don’t want you to ignore these important signs mentioned above. More importantly, don’t let them break you. We know you’re a great person, you’re a phenomenal catch.
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