“I’m not ready for a relationship,” he says to you. You think to yourself: “How can this be possible after you chased me all this time?” What could have possibly happened that made him change his mind? What’s going on? You start beating yourself up trying to find the reason he feels this way. You clearly didn’t do anything wrong, so what’s going on in this picture?
As the leading Bridgewater matchmakers, we know there are many men in the NJ dating scene who are just not ready to be in a relationship. But don’t worry, we’re going to show you how to spot them so you don’t waste your time with them ever again.
1. He Wants to Have a Girlfriend Right Now
Okay, desperation is not an attractive quality in anyone. If the man you’re seeing is coming on too strong, you might want to take a second look at him. Ask yourself why this guy is clinging onto you so quickly after you just met him a few weeks ago? He might be one of those super excited guys who can’t hold back his excitement, but he could just be desperate to be in a relationship. If he’s making you the center of his world too soon, then he is desperate. Here at New Jersey Singles, we know desperation spells trouble in any relationship.
2. He Is Negative About Life
He always seems to look at the negative side of life, and that might be a sign he’s not relationship-ready. Always seeing things in a not-so-bright kind of way is a sign that something is missing in his life. Maybe what’s missing is a girlfriend. Nope, he’ll still feel negative and pessimistic—girlfriend or not. Don’t let this guy drain your energy and spirit—get out while you can!
3. He Doesn’t Have a Future Plan
Okay, so he might not have a stable career just yet, and that’s okay if he’s trying. If he doesn’t have a solid career, he should be working hard to get where he wants to be. However, if he doesn’t have any career plans in mind and doesn’t do anything to change it, then he’s not ready to commit to you. Think about it, if he can’t even commit to a job, what makes you think he’s going to commit to you? If he has been changing his mind and career path since he was younger, then he’s not ready for commitment. He hasn’t even figure it out himself yet, so he’s definitely not ready for love.
4. He Doesn’t Have Any Friends
Dating a man with no friends will come back and bite you in the end. It might seem super romantic that he wants to spend every second of the day with you, but the relationship will soon start to feel unbalanced. If you are a social woman, he will soon resent you for going out with your friends and not choosing to spend time with him instead. Our Bridgewater matchmakers know you need a social life to feel fulfilled, and he needs the same. You simply can’t spend every second of the day together and expect your relationship to flourish.
5. He’s Never Been in a Long-Term Relationship
He might have told you a few things about his past relationships, and you’re realizing that none of them ever lasted more than a few months. He has never been in a long-term relationship. What does this mean for you? You’re on the chopping block. He clearly isn’t ready to be in a long-term relationship and moves from woman to woman.
6. He Just Came Out of a Relationship
On the flipside, if he was involved in a long-term relationship that just ended, he’s not ready to be in another relationship. This guy is on the rebound. Two things happen when you get out of a long-term relationship: you either stay single for a long time or jump right back into the dating scene and look for a rebound. If this guy just got out of a long-term relationship and is now dating you, you are his rebound.
Ladies, you don’t want to be second-hand love. You deserve a man who loves you unconditionally, not someone who is using you to mend his broken heart. He should have given himself time to heal before he started dating.
7. Everything Seems Too Perfect
You just started dating this guy and everything feels magically, just like in the movies. Things are so amazing that you think you’re living your own fairy-tale dream. If something is too good to be true, most of the time it’s because it’s not real. As the leading Bridgewater matchmakers, we know that relationships can be wonderful and magical, but they also have their downsides. If everything is sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows—100% of the time—something is wrong with this picture, and it’s time to find out why.
8. He Flirts with Other Women
Every woman has dated a guy who flirted with everything that walked: the waitress, her best friend, and even the barista at Starbucks. But there is a huge difference between being flirty and making a move. If the man you’re dating likes to engage in friendly conversation with women and is known for taking things to the next level, then you should be concerned. This is a huge warning sign he’s not ready to be in a long-term relationship. If he can’t tone down the player in him, maybe it’s time you move on and save yourself the heartache down the road.
9. He Doesn’t Have Any Interests
Do you find that it’s always you who comes up with the date ideas or things to do? Does he just float around doing nothing? Does his whole life revolve around watching TV shows? This is a massive sign he’s not ready to be in a relationship. He doesn’t even have a life of his own. If the man you’re seeing doesn’t have any passions and interests in life, he hasn’t figured himself out, and it’s not your job to do it for him. Do yourself a favor and find yourself a man you share common interests with. Believe us, it will make your relationship fun and exciting. Relationships require efforts from both partners.
Ladies, how many of these signs do you see with the current man you’re seeing? If you see a handful of these, then you know he’s not ready to be in a relationship. But don’t worry, there’s still hope. Our Bridgewater matchmakers can introduce you to attractive, relationship-minded men who are ready to commit to someone like you.
Call 1 (888) 417-0020 now to reserve your FREE matchmaking consultation with New Jersey Singles today. Join us and let our expert matchmakers help you find a successful and attractive man who is compatible with you!