Archive for December 2014

New Jersey Singles Complaints: I Need to Lose Weight!

If you’re tired of squeezing into your clothes every day and ready to make positive changes in 2015, our professional matchmakers from New Jersey Singles Dating Service have some fabulous tips to not only help you lose weight as a couple but also bring you closer together and create a stronger connection all year long.

One of the biggest benefits of being in a happy relationship is the fact that you can always count on your partner for anything you need. Wouldn’t you agree? Working together as a team makes it a lot easier for both of you to stay motivated and accomplish your goals and resolutions for the upcoming year. If the two of you have made it a point to lose weight in 2015, our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles will teach you how to do just that.

Our matchmakers love the idea of a fit couple, not just because of the obvious health benefits, but also because it creates a better bonding experience. Not sure how to go about losing weight together? Well, don’t worry, we have you covered today. We know you’re excited to get started, so without further ado, let’s get to it so you can get started!


1. Enroll in a Dance Class

If you want to take the romance up a notch in your relationship and lose a few pounds in the process, why not take a tango, salsa, or tap dance? Not only will you burn several hundred calories in each class but your friends will be impressed the next time you go out in a group and break out your dance moves. Dance is a great exercise that is tons of fun, so it won’t feel like a usual dreaded workout at the gym.

2. Go Rollerblading or Ice-Skating

Do you want to shed a few extra calories while having a good time together? Then go rollerblading if the weather permits or even ice-skating at your local rink. Bring a picnic basket, a hot thermos, some finger snacks, and you’re good to go.

3. Paint a Room in Your Place

Painting is a lot of work, but it will go twice as fast if you recruit the help of your partner. Think of how many calories the two of you will burn just by moving the furniture. Not only will your place look good, but you’ll also shed a few extra pounds and have some good clean fun.

4. Split Meals

Everyone knows that restaurant meals can sometimes be large enough to fill two. Reduce the temptation of overeating by sharing a meal on your next date night. Small changes can really make a difference over time.

5. Buy Smaller Dishware

By switching your huge plates for small ones, you’ll encourage yourself to eat less, and eating less during mealtime will lower your calorie count for the day.

6. Bike Together

We know, we know… Biking in the brutal New Jersey winters might not sound like fun, but bundle up and give it a try. Once you get moving you’ll be good to go. Go ahead and head out biking together on the weekends? Switch up your weekend routines and instead of driving to your favorite coffee spot, now you can bike there. Afterward, enjoy the beautiful places in your city that you cannot access by car.

7. Create a Healthy Exercise Routine

It’s always easy to start a healthy habit if you have a supportive partner by your side, and since the two of you have made it your resolution to lose weight in the New Year, this will be the best time to do it. Take some time and plan out a workout routine, something that you’ll look forward to together.

8. Switch up Your Dates

Instead of going to restaurants or the movies for every date, places you’ll ingest a high amount of calories, why not spice things up by trying new things? Instead of going to a restaurant and movies, try going hiking, biking, rollerblading, ice-skating, or to your local fitness center or country club for a round of racquetball? Or, how about bowling in winter or miniature golfing in spring and summer?

9. Take up a New Sport

Biking, rock climbing, or hot yoga can be great ways to lose a few pounds in the New Year, and the best thing about these activities is that you can do them as a couple. Other options include indoor volleyball, tennis, racquetball, or golf.

10. Eat the Same Foods

Sticking to a healthier lifestyle for 2015 is much easier if both of you are on the same page when it comes to foods. So eating the same healthy meals will keep both of you on track when it comes to staying in shape.

11. Split Dessert

Can’t resist that hot fudge sundae or that gingerbread loaf? Don’t worry, split the dessert and go halves with your partner. Not only will you save a few calories, but it will make you feel like you’re a teenager all over again.

12. Remember Why You Started

Having your partner by your side can help you remember your goals to stay fit and healthy, especially on days you’re feeling down or discouraged (and don’t worry, we all have them). Your partner will be able to pick you back up and keep you on track on these days.

13. Don’t Make It All about Your Weight

Losing weight is an important part of the journey; however, being healthy is the most important one. Don’t worry if it’s taking a little longer to lose a few pounds. Worry about how you feel and all the better choices you’re making, those are the things that matter.

14. Give Sincere Compliments

Now, this one here is important. Be sure to extend genuine compliments to your partner when you notice they look better in an outfit. Trust us, this will be all the motivation you both need to keep going.

15. Take Progress Pictures

Taking pictures of each other can help you document how much weight the two of you have lost and have far you’ve each come, and just like above, when you see even small results, it will keep you going strong.

16. Create New Traditions

Don’t allow your relationship to be weighed down by old traditions such as eating a lot of food during a birthday celebration. Another great suggest is to visit your local farmer’s market instead of buying fatty foods on weekends.


17. Don’t Compare Your Weight Loss

Some people, especially males, tend to lose weight quicker than women. Our matchmakers don’t want you to compare your weight loss to your partner or anyone else.

18. Keep It Stocked

If you have a large amount of food prepared for the week, it will make it easier for you to start making healthier choices. When you are hungry, the food is already prepared, so you’re less likely to stray from your diet and eat something bad.

19. Prepare Meals Together

You will enjoy the weight loss process more if the two of you prepare healthy meals together; after all, this is a weight loss journey for two.

20. Don’t Plan Around Food

It’s easy to plan something together based on food, but we don’t want you to do this. In the New Year, plan activities that don’t revolve around food.

21. Play Games at Home

Nowadays, many gaming systems offer exercised based games you can do at home. Dance Revolution, tennis, bowling, and many other choices that will not only keep you entertained, but will help you shed a few pounds and connect with your partner on those cold New Jersey days.

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When to Meet the Parents with New Jersey Matchmakers

Whether you’re meeting their parents or they are meeting yours, timing is very important. Today, our professional matchmaking team from New Jersey Singles Dating Service will show you the tell-tale signs you’re ready to make it happen.

Do not introduce your new partner to your family just because you feel like it. This is something you need to do when you are both ready to make it happen. Figuring out when the right time can certainly be challenging and it will have a lot to do with your family and your partner. If your parents are laidback, then you can do it sooner than later. You know your parents well, so you know when to make it happen.

If your parents are the more formal type, you know, the ones that always wear a suit and tie and have formal dinners, then perhaps you need to take more time to get everything prepared so all goes over well. Either way, all parties must be ready for the meeting so things go smoothly.


The Right Time to Meet the Parents

Our professional matchmaking advice for you is to plan something a little intimate so everyone has the chance to properly get to know each other. But of course, everything is up to you. Today, our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service will show you the top signs that it’s time to make the big meet happen.

1. You Are Exclusively Together

You will know that the right time has come when the two of you are exclusive with each other. There is no point of getting the whole meeting set up if the two of you are just casually dating. Once you have decided that both of you are in a steady and settled relationship, then meeting the parents should definitely happen.

2. Your Partner Has Met All Your Friends

If your partner has hung out with your friends more than once, then it’s safe to say that they are ready to meet the parents. Of course there is less pressure when meeting a group of friends than when meeting your parents, but if your group of friends have already approved, then it’s safe to assume that your parents will also approve of your partner. After all, friends can be very judgmental.

3. Your Partner Has Already Met Different Family Members

Whether your partner has met a certain family member just by accident or intentionally, once they have met a family member, then you know it’s time to meet the parents.

For example, if you and your current partner have run into an uncle at the local supermarket and you introduced them so you didn’t come off as rude, then you need to remember that they will talk. If your family is like most people’s families, they are constantly talking to each other, so news will spread quickly that your uncle has met your current boyfriend or girlfriend before the parents (big no-no).

Even a small encounter like that can lead to drama. Save yourself the drama and introduce your current partner to your parents before they meet any other family member. The same rule applies if your sister or brother meets them before your parents. Expectations will be set, prejudgments are bound to be made, and before you know it, and your parents will be bugging you to make the introduction happen anyways.

4. You Always Talk about the Future

Once you start talking in terms of us rather than we, then you know the time has come. If you see yourself being with a partner and visual the future with them, the next course of action will be to make the big introduction happen. This means they are ready to meet the people who brought you into this world. That step will make your partner feel secure and happy in the relationship. They’ll know things are heading in the right direction.

5. The Idea Doesn’t Bother You

If the idea of your partner meeting your parents doesn’t scare you whatsoever, then what are you waiting for? That is a good sign that you are comfortable with each other and are ready to make it happen. You need to ensure that your parents feel the same way so the introduction can go smoothly.

6. You’re Proud of Them

It is very difficult to introduce a partner to your parents if your boyfriend is a slacker or your girlfriend is an alcoholic, but if you are proud of who they are as a person, it is inevitable you want the whole world to know about their accomplishments. You want people close to you to see that the person you’re in love with is the right one for you.

7. Everyone Is Ready for It

Okay, if you cannot figure out when the right time to make it happen is, let’s take the easy way out and ask everyone if they’re ready for the introduction. Speak to your parents about the special someone you’re dating and look at the reaction on their faces when you bring up setting up a meeting or a family dinner. Once you think everyone is comfortable enough to make it happen, the next step is to set up a date and do it.

Meeting the parents for the first time is a big step whether you think so or not. You might be surprised how many relationships don’t work out because of the initial meeting. As much as you like your new partner, what your family thinks of them will weigh heavily on your relationship. Never underestimate your parents’ intuition when it comes to determining the character of the person you’re dating. Parents have a weird sixth sense when it comes to things like that, so take your time and never rush it. You will know when the time is right.

Hopefully meeting the parents isn’t as difficult as you imagine it to be. As long as you know the time is right, you should have nothing to worry about. Now, all you need to worry about is how you’re going to help your partner make a great first impression.
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New Jersey Singles Complaints – I Ran Out of Things to Talk about!

Are you and your man running out of things to talk about or have you just gotten into a new relationship and feeling a little clueless what you can discuss each other? Don’t worry, our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service will teach you what to talk about with your boyfriend, easy topics that can pave the way for more conversation.

There is much more to a relationship than the physical closeness and intimacy. You also need to be able to openly talk with your boyfriend and develop a deep connection; after all, without talking, there isn’t much else you will be doing together.

Making conversation, however, isn’t always as easy as you think it will be. In fact, it can be scary, especially for women are introverted and have trouble naturally striking up conversation. And since a real relationship is not all about the physical, it’s about the intellectual, you’re going to need to brush up on your conversation skills.

Our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service have put together a list of great options to talk about with your boyfriend. It’s basic and it’s effective, and it will be how you and your boyfriend get the conversation going. It doesn’t really matter what the stage of the relationship you’re at, you can use this on every dinner conversation and it will pave the way for more conversation. So let’s get to them.


1. Sports

There is a high chance that one of you in this relationship is into playing sports or at least watching their favorite team on TV. Now that football season is here, try to have a conversation about each other’s football teams, or better yet, go to a local sporting event and have fun discussing the game and rooting with (or against) each other.

Even better, if you’re both into sports, you can make a future date revolving around those things you’re into. How about a round of tennis, a run in the park, or a nice long hike or bike ride?

2. Comic books

The world of comic books is unlimited and your boyfriend is bound to like something. Maye he is not so much into them now, but maybe in his younger years he was. If he was, it’s likely something he was passionate about, so have fun listening and learning new things about him.

3. Skateboarding or Rollerblading

If there is one thing are passionate about, it’s their pasts. So what was your man into? Many men were into skateboarding or rollerblading in their younger years, or perhaps he was into skiing or snowboarding. If your boyfriend was into something growing up, trust us when we say he’ll be able to go on talking for hours. Guess why? Because he was probably good at it. If he was into rollerblading or skiing, then maybe you can even make a date out of it by going rollerblading at a nearby park or skiing at your favorite spot. What’s that, you never skied? Even better, he’ll get a real ego boost teaching you how!

4. Action/War

Many men are into action, and that’s no secret. The best way to start a conversation about this is to rent a movie. And trust us when we tell you this, men will watch any movie that has action in it. Your man will be happy to discuss the movie with you, especially if he is a war buff and you watch a good war movie together.

5. Arts

On the other side of the glove, there are many men who are into art or are even artists themselves. When it comes to art, there are so many different variations of it, so you can’t go wrong. You can try going to a local art museum or enroll in a sculpting or painting class. Arts and crafts are no longer for women just so you know.

6. Favorite Movies

Everyone has a list of movies they want to go see, and you really can’t go wrong here. Go ahead and discuss it with your boyfriend to see if there is something you both want to go watch at the theater or something to rent and take home. Also, the movies you watch together will give you more things to talk about.

7. Favorite Foods

Speaking of going out on dates, why not talk about each other’s favorite foods. Is there a different cuisine you’ve been dying to try? Are you hungry for something right now? We bet he is! So go ahead and talk about anything culinary and you’ll be sure to grab his attention. If you know your way around the kitchen, surprise him with a nice home cooked meal.

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8. Each Other’s Dreams

This topic can give you many things to talk about. If you had some crazy dreams overnight, then that could be a great conversation starter. Unless he is one of those men who never remembers a dream, he is going to have something to add to the conversation.

This one might depend where you’re both at in your relationship, but another thing you can talk about is the future and what both of you expect and hope for. What are each of your goals? What do you want to accomplish? Where do you each see yourselves 10 years from now?

9. Each Other’s Day

One of the simplest yet overlooked conversation starters is discussing each other’s days. If you don’t ask him about his day, there is a good chance he won’t tell you about it. Men aren’t like women, they don’t just open up about their feeling; therefore, you need to get it out of him. Tell him about your day, what you did, and then ask him about his.

10. Favorite Books

Everyone has a favorite book and author, so why not ask him to tell you about his. Or better yet, the two of you could even read a book together? Have you ever seen those happy couples in the park who are sharing a book? Well, that could be you. It’s romantic, give it a shot.

11. Each Other’s Family

Okay, we know. There are good stories and bad stories when it comes to family. One of the quickest ways to get to know your boyfriend is to ask him about his family. Share some of your childhood pranks with him, talk about your weird cousin Donna, or that family vacation you used to take every year. Family is always a good choice for conversation, just don’t delve too deep.

12. Favorite Music

One of the easiest things to discuss with your boyfriend is music. There are so many different styles of it. Talking about music can bring about a lot of opportunities for dating. Is your favorite band coming to town, or is his?

13. The Future as a Couple

If you’re looking for something more serious to talk about with your boyfriend, then talk about the future together. In fact, our matchmakers recommend you have this conversation. You can talk about long term and short term. Or, if it’s a brand new relationship, you can talk about what both of you will be doing in the coming weeks. The point here is to make plans that include each other, even if it’s just planning another date to go see his favorite band that coming next week.
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Stick to Your 2015 Dating Resolutions with Colts Neck Matchmakers

Numerous New Jersey singles complaints from single men come from the inability to stick dating resolutions. But this year, matchmaking professionals with over 25 years of experience will teach you how to solve your dating problems in 2015!


Fix Your Dating Resolutions by Avoiding the Wrong Type of Resolution

Professional matchmakers from New Jersey Singles Dating Service know the biggest reason most dating resolutions fail is because people don’t choose the right type of resolutions. Let’s take a look so you know what we’re talking about.

1. People focus solely on the end result instead of what they can do. For example, you would lose weight much quicker if you resolved to stop going to McDonald’s or happy hour three times a week than you would if you set the goal of losing 20 pounds in six months. And with dating, it’s the same. A resolution to get a girlfriend or to date only 10’s won’t get you as far as if you committed to learning how to approach men and women daily.

2. People focus on the wrong things to achieve their goals. A lot of men think they need to be weird, standoffish, or even mean to get a woman, but New Jersey matchmakers know this is far from the truth. You wouldn’t go to a Chinese school to learn Italian and being weird or mean to women is the equivalent.

3. Being unrealistic. Men who resolve to go to the gym 3 hours a day end up working out less than the men who make a more realistic goal, and the same goes with dating. You will not be meeting women every night, so set a more realistic goal of meeting at least 1 woman a week.

Fixing Your Dating Problems by Using These New Year’s Dating Resolutions

Every year, New Jersey Singles Dating Service helps thousands of men achieve dating success with women. Some get in serious relationships and some get married, but our expert matchmakers are able to help single men achieve the happiness they wanted.

Our matchmakers have been in the business for 25 years and know exactly what works and what doesn’t, year in and year out. The following dating resolutions will work for you in 2015, they’re everything you need. Print them out, take them to work, or stick them on your fridge. That is all you have to do, and you’ll thank us later.

1. Find a Passion & Purpose

Being good with women takes practice and skill. If you want to be a good guitar player or basketball player, you spend time studying and practicing to become better at those things, and the same applies to dating. This is why it’s very important to find your passion and purpose and practice explaining it. Get comfortable explaining it so that women find it compelling. It’s better to have a genuine passion for golfing or comic books than pretending to be something you’re not. Why? Because women don’t like fake men. Use your passion to converse with her and she’ll respond in a positive way.

2. Practice

You are going to have to work for your goals if you want to be happy with your dating life, you must practice for it. This isn’t necessarily because there is something wrong with you, though. It’s because women are always practicing their social and flirting skills, making them pros. Trust us, they can’t help it. An attractive, outgoing, social women is going to have people wanting to talk to her all the time, so if you want to be on her level, then you must also learn to be a social person. Women truly appreciate a man who open and charismatic.

3. Get a Friend to Help You

Studies show that people who share their goals with others will stay committed to accomplishing them. So there you have it, when you have a mentor, friend, or expert dating coach, you’re more likely to accomplish your goal of dating success. Meeting women is easier and more fun when you have a dating coach or friend by your side. It’s usually much better to be coached by someone who knows the field rather than going at it blindly. Plus, you have someone to give you support and encouragement when you need it.


4. Better Your 1st Impression

Everyone knows that a woman makes a decision whether a man is a yes or a no within the first 30 seconds of meeting him. It absolutely pays off that you pass the first impression test. A lot goes into the first few seconds, but the most important element is in the non-verbal communication. It’s about how you express yourself through your body language and facial expressions.

The great thing about body language is that you can practice it 24/7, even when there isn’t anyone around you. Go ahead and have a little fun practicing in the mirror when you’re getting ready for work in the morning. Practice your smile and facial expressions and you’ll be sharpening your social skills in the process.

• Eye Contact: You need to keep eye contact when you’re talking to her as well as when you are listening.
• Controlled Movements: You need to control your movements, not look like a bumbling idiot.
• Always Smile: Your smile needs to look friendly and genuine. It will help her relax and make you look confident.
• Shoulders Back: Don’t hunch like you have bricks on your shoulders. Women like a man who carries himself well.
• Stand Tall: Keep your head held high, and don’t look at the ground when you are walking. After all, if you’re always looking at the ground, how will you ever attract the attention of the beautiful women you see day in and day out?

5. Don’t Be Afraid to Get Help

Most men are not that good at attracting women. Some men learn from watching an older brother or a friend, while others got lucky in the genetics department, but for everyone else, there is still hope. You are going to have to make it happen, and that means stepping out of your comfort zone and working hard to achieve success in your dating life. But don’t worry, you don’t have to go at it alone.

There is no shame in hiring a professional matchmaker to help you along the way. Many successful men come to us when it comes to finding love. If you have been struggling to follow up with your dating resolutions and have not been successful with women, our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service are here to help you. We have helped thousands of men just like yourself find compatible partners and serious relationships. If you want to be successful in dating in 2015, give our matchmakers a call today.

New Jersey Singles Complaints on Holiday Dating

It’s safe to say that the holiday season is the most stressful and anticipated one for singles. New couples not sure what to define themselves as, those who have recently broken off a relationship, and those who are tired of hearing probing questions about their single status from their family members and coworkers.

The holiday time, from Thanksgiving to New Years, brings about a whole array of different emotions. It’s natural to reminisce on all the memories you once had,. But one thing is for certain, though, during this season, many singles are actively on the hunt for holiday love, many of whom turn to professional matchmaking agencies, like New Jersey Singles.

Still, with that fact, we know dating during the holiday season can be challenging. We get it, it’s hurtful and frustrating to see so many happy people get into new relationships while you are stuck in a dating rut. But don’t worry, today our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles will share some helpful tips to get you through the holidays.


1. Don’t Use Social Media to Reminisce

Sure, we know it’s natural to want to peek at your ex’s Facebook page to see what they’re up to, especially during the holidays when you’re thinking back to the good times, but try to refrain. What if she’s taking a trip to the Bahamas with their new beau or what if he’s flying to aspen to get a special kiss under the mistletoe? You’re going to be deeply hurting inside.

Instead, our matchmakers want you to try to create new memories. Walk down a nicely decorated street and take photos of the trees, storefronts, and beautifully displayed lights, then post those on Facebook to show your holiday cheer. So what if you’re alone and without a partner? You are out of your house enjoying the holidays regardless of your relationship status. Digital snooping isn’t helpful, especially during the holidays when you’re bound to feel more emotional. Trust us, it will only bring out the worst in you.

2. Fill the Calendar & Stay Busy

Anxiety can be at an all-time high during the holiday season, but joining a professional matchmaking agency like New Jersey Singles will be a great way to get a little ego boost. It will also give you plenty of opportunities to meet like-minded individuals. Although, our matchmakers don’t recommend you fill up the calendar by signing up with online dating sites. As easy and promising as they might sound, they do come with many cons. The easiest way to find someone who you’re compatible with is by letting an expert matchmaker do the searching and qualifying for you.

3. Block Your Ex on Social Media

If you have recently ended a relationship with someone, the best thing you can do is block them from social media. Make sure you delete them so you’re not reminded of all the things they’re doing without you. This way you also aren’t going to be so tempted to snoop on their page.

4. Don’t Get into a Rebound Relationship

They say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new. Do you think that’s right? Absolutely not.
Sure, the initial infatuation stage can be fun, and it’s nice to have a warm body around you during the cold season, but being with someone new while trying to heal from a broken relationship isn’t the answer. Spend time with friends and family members, especially now that it’s the holiday season. You can even spend time alone doing a bit of reading, writing, taking a class or trying a new hobby.


5. Discuss Holiday Gift Giving

Before you run off to the nearest expensive jewelry store to buy your new partner of three weeks a Rolex, ask yourself if this is really what you should be getting them. Doesn’t it seem like it’s a little over the top and a little too soon? We think so. You need to come up with a reasonable budget if you’re dating someone new.
Perhaps you can get them a scarf, sweater, a ticket to a comedy show or sporting event, or even make them homemade cookies. You could even get them a gift certificate to the spa, gourmet chocolates, or accessories you know they like. Save those more meaningful gifts for when your relationship gets more serious.

*Also, for the men reading this, avoid buying her lingerie unless she has picked it out herself.

6. It’s Peak Season for Matchmakers

The good news for you is that more singles just like you have been signing up at professional matchmaking services like ours here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service. Our matchmakers see an influx of memberships during the holidays and Valentine’s Day. So why not sign up now to see if you can find a compatible partner to date?

7. Accept Holiday Invitations to Parties

If your calendar isn’t filled with holiday invitations, then it’s time to fill it in. Our matchmakers encourage you to accept invitations to work parties, family get togethers, and holiday parties hosted by friends. Now is the time to go and socialize with everyone you can; after all, you never know how many people you can meet at all these festive events. Walk in with confidence and you’ll be turning heads everywhere you go.

8. Matchmaking Makes Connections Year Round

People meet through matchmaking agencies and fall in love all year round, not just during the holiday season. If you’re having troubles dating on your own, it’s always best to leave it to the pros. In our 25 years of matchmaking in New Jersey, we have helped thousands of singles meet their other halves. Some meet during the holidays and others meet through the other months of the year. We help people get into serious relationships all year round, and we know we can help you too.

9. Fall in Love with Yourself

During the holidays, please take some time and a few deep breaths and realize that finding a partner starts with you. You need to feel good with yourself before anyone can feel good with you. If you need to take a break from dating to work on yourself, that’s fine. There are no rules others than needing to fall in love with yourself first. It’s the best place to start any new relationship.

Our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles wish you happy holidays and happy holidating! Let’s make your holiday dream come true this year.

If you’re ready to outsource your love life and see positive results, contact our matchmaking team today. Let us help you find the one!

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New Jersey Singles Helps You Create Confidence before a Hot Date

Are you struggling to meet and make connections with singles in New Jersey? Let our professional matchmakers improve your dating success with helpful tips to boost your mood and increase confidence!

Dating is something you either hate or love. With 25 years of matchmaking experience, here at New Jersey Singles, we know it can be fun, frustrating, and grueling all at the same time. After all, if dating were easy, there wouldn’t be any dating blogs or advice floating around with titles like “Dating Makes You Want to Cringe, But You Need to Do It,” “Dating Advice: Do’s & Don’ts for 1st Dates,” “How Not to Date,” “Dating Horror Stories,” and so on. The web is full of bad stories about dates who show up without showering, people who are too eager, and some that are downright scary. Why is dating in the 21st century so complicated?

Dating anxiety could have a lot to do with the way we behave. Nowadays, people are living longer, gender roles are flexible, and both sexes are putting equal priority into their careers, friendships, and social lives. Still, people need to date to find a soul mate and eventually get married. However, despite all the pressures and frustrations of meeting new people and dating, our matchmakers know it can still be a lot of fun. The trick is all in your attitude and how you approach it altogether. And trust us, confidence has a lot to do with it too. Today, our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service will teach you how to build confidence for dating.

How to Relax Before Your Upcoming Date…

Soothing music in the air, candles lit, and a warm evening breeze coming through the window… Are you on a dream date? Nope, this is happening all inside of your head when you practice how to relax beforehand and learn to visualize your dates. By transporting yourself to a place in your mind that helps you feel relaxed, you can feel at ease and let go of any tension that could jeopardize your date. Less tension means a stable wrist to apply your mascara or a steady and to shave your beard and more positive energy to talk, laugh, and dance the night away.

Just learn to breathe deeply and calm your mind. Since being rushed will raise your adrenaline, you need to give yourself plenty of time to get ready. If you know the date is only hours away, plan ahead so you know exactly what you’re going to wear. Yep, right down to the very last accessory and perfume or cologne. Make sure your tank is full so there aren’t any unnecessary stops, and have the directions to the restaurant already punched into your GPS so you’re not fumbling around and getting hot in the car.

Put Yourself in a Good Mood

Here at New Jersey Singles, we encourage our clients to do something they love before heading out on an introduction. Get your endorphins going, eat your favorite candy bar, lift a few weights, or go for a short run. Engage in your favorite activity. Whatever it is you like, do it. We want you to do anything you can that will lift your spirits. Dress in clothes that make you feel comfortable, ones that will boost your confidence. If you look and feel your best before your date, you will naturally be more confident as well.

Be Open to New Experiences

Let go of your rigid expectations and just be open to something new. Think of dating as an experiment; things could end up going well or maybe not so much. Relax into this idea and things could turn out positive. Try not to start thinking about the ‘what ifs’ or how things could be ten years from now. Just think about the moment and the date you’re having right now. After all, it’s just a date. Stay in the moment and enjoy what they have to offer.

Be Your True Self

As cliché as it might sound, it is essential for you to be yourself. Don’t try putting on a façade and acting like someone you’re not. If you want this date to go well, then you want that person to like you for who you are, not someone you pretended to be. Be open and confident with who you are as a person. If you and your date hit it off, perfect. If not, no worries. He or she isn’t the last person on the planet.

Focus on Your Strengths & Put Your Weaknesses Aside

Don’t complain or engage in negative self-talk during your first date. Talk to them about your strengths and accomplishments. Yes, we all have our weaknesses, and we all make mistakes, but there is no need to talk about them during your first date. First impressions are everything, so keep everything positive and upbeat during your date.

Remember: They Are Human as Well

Remember that your date is only human too. They have emotions just like you and they are probably nervous as well. Now relax and take comfort in knowing this. Treat the other person the same exact way you want to be treated and we can guarantee you will have a successful evening. Even if things don’t turn out the way you expected, perhaps you’ll end up meeting a new friend. Each person you go out with brings you a new point of view, a new perspective on dating. And even if you don’t see this person again, they have probably taught you something new. Try looking at your date from this perspective and you’ll see things will go much smoother.

Always Smile

Last but not least. A genuine smile can take you a long way. It’s friendly, warm, open, and inviting, all very important in making a great first impression and setting the tone for the date. Our matchmakers don’t want you to focus solely the end results; just be happy to enjoy the dating experience you’re about to embark on. Always greet your date with a smile, and don’t forget to smile and laugh throughout the date. And regardless of the end results, at the end of the date, smile again as you say goodbye.

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Marriage Tips from Lawrenceville Matchmaking Agency

New Jersey Singles Dating Service receives many complaints about marriage and its often overwhelming challenges. With this helpful guide by our Lawrenceville matchmakers, you can live that happily ever after ending you always dreamed of.

Don’t be fooled into thinking relationships are a walk in the park or love-filled bliss every second of the day. On the contrary, there is a lot of time and work that goes into having a successful and long lasting marriage. Kids, grandkids, affairs, illnesses, careers, bills, and everything in between, everything can affect the outcome of your marriage.

So what are you supposed to do when the honeymoon phase is over and real life and its hardships set in? Do you simply walk away at the first sign of trouble or do you keep fighting to save your marriage? You might have come across some of this advice before, but there is no denying that it can help you save your marriage. Today, we want to let you in on some helpful advice from our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles Dating Service.

1. Don’t Let Your Mood Dictate Your Words

Just because you are angry, upset, or sad doesn’t mean your partner needs to take the brunt of it. After a long day at the office, it’s not uncommon for people to take it all out on their spouses as soon as they get in the door. You might be angry at your boss, ticked at a work colleague, irate with the cab driver, or appalled that someone cut you off, but at the end of the day, you should never take it out on your spouse.

It’s not your wife or husband’s fault that your boss laughed at your presentation. It wasn’t your spouse’s fault that the cab driver got a flat tire. And it certainly wasn’t their fault someone rear-ended you on the way home. Leave your crappy feelings outside of your home. We know this will take a lot of practice, and we’re not saying it’s going to be easy, but you can certainly do it.

2. You Can Act Silly

Don’t worry, this one doesn’t take as much effort as the first tip. Yes, you read that right, never be afraid to be silly with your spouse. Whether it’s having a tickle fest on the couch or telling them a funny joke you heard at work, do whatever it is you can do to bring humor into your relationship. Humor will keep things healthy and fun; after all, everyone knows laughter is the best medicine.

3. Don’t Blame Each Other

Remember, if you want to save your marriage, you shouldn’t play the blaming game. Sure, there are scenarios where you know who the culprit is, and constantly arguing about who forgot to take out the trash or who left the garage door open is not going to help your marriage. But what we’re talking about here are the bigger things, things like blaming your partner for your loneliness because he took you to another country to advance in his career or blaming your spouse for your son’s bad grades. Remember that the two of you are a team that should love and support each other, not pick fights and blame each other all the time.

4. See the Best in Your Spouse

Always focus on the good things about your spouse and your marriage. Once you begin to see only the bad, that’s all you’re going to see, and you will have a hard time changing that thought. Instead of thinking, “Oh gosh, he’s such a pig leaving messes all over the house,” focus on, “I love how he keeps our child respectful.” Our matchmakers encourage you to try to always see the best in every situation.

5. Go Out on Dates

Life always tends to get in the way of our relationships, and love suffers and takes a backseat. If you can keep appointments with your nail lady, your barber, the bank manager, your boss, or the vet, you can definitely make time to go out with your spouse. Our matchmaking experts encourage you to schedule date night at least once a week. Whether it’s simply to grab coffee at a local coffee shop or to go watch a movie together, make it a point to enjoy each other’s company. And before you even think it, having kids is no excuse for not going out on dates. Get a babysitter and open a bottle of wine.

6. Your Partner Should Be in a Special Place in Your Heart

Infidelity is one of the main reasons of divorce every year. No matter how hot your secretary looks every morning when she brings you your coffee or how sexy your tennis coach is, don’t even think about breaching the trust you promised when you got married. You need to put your partner in a special place in your heart so you’re never tempted to be unfaithful to them. Your partner doesn’t deserve to be hurt by your selfishness so be sure you resist any temptation that comes your way.

7. Learn Your Partner’s Language

You should try to make an effort to make your partner happy even if it means you’re not having such a good time yourself. For example, if your partner loves biking and you hate it, you should be a good sport and go with them once in a while. Learn your partner’s language, and do what you can do to let your partner know you love them. Try to learn to appreciate the things they enjoy even if you cannot stand those things.

8. Always Be Happy

Contrary to what people say, happiness is your choice. If you choose to be happy and grateful for what you have, you will find happiness comes to you easily. Never compare your spouse to anyone else’s because you never know what goes on behind closed doors. And never compare your spouse to Hollywood movies because that’s not a reality. When you got married, you promised your spouse you would love them for better or for worse, and nothing screams love like choosing to be happy with your life together. Value their presence in your life and make a conscious effort to be happy and live the life you promised each other.

There is no guarantee your marriage is ever going to be trouble-free, but if you follow the above advice from our professional matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles, you’ll see the bond between you and your spouse will be so strong that no road block will ever be able to stop it.

Find Love over the Holidays with New Jersey Singles Dating Service

Find Love over the Holidays with New Jersey Singles Dating Service

Are you dreading spending the holidays alone? Are you ready to pick yourself up and do something about it? If so, our professional matchmakers have the perfect holiday dating advice for you!

When the calendar turns to December you, along with many other singles, might begin to think about the holidays ahead, and that means envisioning the holidays all by themselves. Family dinners with siblings and cousins, and everyone else, showing up with their significant others. Then, your company holiday party, your best friend’s Christmas party, and that missing kiss under the mistletoe all begin to flood your head.

Tis the season alright. Tis the season for singles to receive many reminders that they are, in fact, single. The good news for you is that there is still time. Over the next couple of weeks there are many things you can do to hopefully increase your chances of snagging a date for the holidays.

1. Give Back to the Community

No matter what area you live, there are bound to be charitable organizations you can volunteer yourself. In addition to daily and weekly events, organizations are always in need of manpower. Many charities also host networking and fundraising events that bring all types of volunteers together to help. Get out and give back to your community and maybe you‘ll meet someone special in the process. Volunteering will surely put you in a cheerful holiday mood.

2. Cheer for Your Home Team

This is a great time of year to meet someone at a local sporting event. From college and pro football, hockey, and basketball, attending a game can be a great way for you to meet other singles. Try going early with a friend and grab a drink at a nearby bar where you are bound to socialize with other local fans. While at the game, find an excuse to talk to someone while waiting in line for your beer or hotdog or give a high five to the good looking single next to you when your team scores. Some local teams even sponsor singles nights where you can go and mingle while watching your favorite team.

3. Do the Things You Like

Whether it’s going to the gym, ice-skating, or shopping, the holiday season is a great time to do all the things you enjoy doing. Maybe you’re into photography or you enjoy running in the park, don’t neglect doing those things just because you would rather mope about spending the holidays solo. Pick yourself up, get off your couch, and get out and about. You never know who is also out doing those activities. Bonus: They’re into the same things as you, and that’s always a great way to break the ice.

4. Learn Something New

Take a class, any type of class. From cooking classes, salsa dancing, or even pottery, classes are a great way to meet like-minded people locally. Dancing classes are a great way to meet other local singles, and it’s a great way to be matched with someone of the opposite sex. You can find many classes to choose from at your local church, community college, or even your fitness center. You can also check the newspaper as they are always advertising fun local classes and events. Even if you walk out of the class without a date, you have at least broadened your horizons, which will help you sharpen your social skills and give you interesting things to talk about.

5. Take Your Dog to the Park

Dog parks are a great way to meet local singles. And guess what? Your dog is also a great icebreaker! You both already have the love for canines in common, and dog parks always provide something humorous to talk about. Don’t have a dog? Don’t worry, you can visit your local animal shelter and offer to walk the dogs there.

6. Read a Book

Stop reading books from candlelight at home and start checking out local bookstores. Unlike the bar scene, that attractive single you have spotted isn’t likely to be intoxicated and you already know you share something in common. Start the conversation by asking them for a book recommendation. Plus, meeting someone at a bookstore means they’re well-rounded, which is a plus for you.

7. Get off Your Phone

Get off your phone. How many eligible singles do you pass each day at the grocery store, the gift wrapping department, or where you stop to get coffee every morning? You don’t even notice because you are on social media or checking your email everywhere you go. Be aware of your surroundings and ask for help or create small talk when you notice an attractive single. You never know who you might meet if you would simply put that phone down.

8. Let Our Professionals Do the Hard Work

Don’t have time to spend walking your dog in the park? No time to take up a new activity or class? If you’re pressed for time or too shy to approach and meeting local singles on your own, don’t worry. Let our expert matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles do the hard work for you.

We are a professional matchmaking agency designed for busy professionals just like yourself. Our matchmakers here at New Jersey Singles take time to get to know you and identify your dating needs so we can satisfy them. If you’re ready to meet someone special this holiday, let our matchmakers do the work for you. It’s as simple as calling us and setting up a free matchmaking consultation.

It doesn’t matter how busy you think you are or how little luck you think you’ll have meeting like-minded singles this time of year, our personal matchmakers can help. We do all the hard work of searching and screening for you, so all you have to do is show up and enjoy each date. What are you waiting for? Give us a call today!